This week in the United States, we celebrated Thanksgiving. For many people, this holiday represents a time to express gratitude for the abundance in our lives. We gather at a table, enjoy a huge meal, and partake in hearty conversation. Stories are shared, information exchanged, and plans for the future discussed. In parallel, many information exchanges happen daily and without much thought. What makes the holiday different however, is the neutrality that the Thanksgiving table represents. People are there for a common reason, without a hidden agenda.
The quiet mini-conversations around the table provide good reflection on how we handle day to day communication, interaction, and relations with people and our dogs. Couldn’t so much more be accomplished without a hidden agenda? If we showed up with our dog “just to have fun?” Several things have occurred this month that proved to be a good reminder that we ALWAYS have a choice.
Every human interaction expends energy on the part of all parties involved. Communication can be positive, challenging, negative, or uplifting. Knowing that some people literally drain us, or approach us with a hidden agenda reminds me that we need to be wise with our energy expenditure. Why on earth would anyone want to interact with someone who drains them, or has a hidden agenda? What message does that send to yourself?
A good indication that it's time to reevaluate your personal relationships is that drained feeling after spending time with someone toxic. Maybe they are constantly taking from you, and never giving back? Or criticizing you and your dog? Giving unwanted advice? You get the idea. In the worst case, it's someone who takes so much that they literally make you sick.
Consider spending time with people that make you feel good, and be accountable for the energy you bring to the interaction. Strive to maintain the balance of giving and receiving, and above all else, don't get taken advantage of.
It is perfectly okay to move away from people and relationships that no longer work- and towards those that do. There is no need to remain stuck, or get someone's permission to move on. If we put a dollar amount on your energy, would you reconsider what you're giving?
This Thanksgiving, I express gratitude for the wonderful friends and clients in my life. I am grateful for the freedom to align with those who have my highest good in mind. What are you most grateful for?
Jen Ortman, owner of Holistipet (LLC) is a Professional Animal Communicator, Animal Reiki Master Teacher, author, and speaker.