June is a time of change for many people. Graduations, weddings, and property sales are happening all around us. Through my coaching services, I've observed oodles of change for clients recently. Most change is met with panic, fear, and agitation- mostly because it's UNKNOWN. So, how does one cope? Let's talk about a few tools to make the transition to change seamless.
Obviously, the process of change is inevitable. It's happening all around us in the form of birth, death, and changing seasons. You change your clothes each day, what you eat for each meal, and even your moods. If nothing ever changed, life would be pretty boring. So WHY is it so scary to face a new job, new school, or even a difference in routine? Fear of the unknown.
There are eight great tools that can ease the pain of change for many people- even if you embrace only a few! The first one is intention setting. What you focus on is what you create, and action follows thought. The process of intention setting requires input and responsibility from you in terms of quantifying exactly what it is that you want. It takes equal effort to create both a great and a miserable experience. The later is created when the focus is fear, worry, and anticipation. To create a stellar experience on the other side of change, start by using positive, present tense thoughts and verbalization. One example is "My new job is better than I ever imagined. I am successful, make a positive difference, and I'm embraced by my colleagues".
The second tool for successful change is to understand and accept that you are exactly where you are supposed to be at any given moment. The Universe, or whatever higher power you identify with, has a master plan. Accept this without questioning. Sometimes change isn't what we ordered or wanted, but fighting it just makes things worse. Try yielding to the Universe and know that it's got your back. There is a reason why things happen, and you are right where you're supposed to be. You can gently influence the flow of your life by practicing intention setting.
Living in gratitude is the third way to embrace change successfully. Giving thanks is such a simple and small way to let the Universe or higher power know that you're appreciative. Giving gratitude literally gives the green light and opens you to more experiences like the one you're appreciative of. This small element can really ease the transition of change! Gratitude can be given intuitively, verbally, through meditation, or prayer. One example would be "Thank you Universe for my overwhelming acceptance at my new job". Another, especially when the change is an undesired one is "Thank you Universe for helping me to get through this".
Wear yellow! As a fourth tool, try the confidence boosting color of bright sunflower yellow. If yellow doesn't look good on you, wear it under something, or put sunflowers on your desk. Yellow stimulates the third chakra, which is the confidence center. Change is less scary if you're feeling confident!
Meditate. Each day, I hear "But I can't do it!". Meditation is critical to mental and physical well being. The practice helps keep you focused, centered, and calm. There are many great guided meditations available now via Sounds True (Soundstrue.com) also Hay House. Start small- even two minutes daily can make a positive difference and help keep you centered during change. This is especially true if you practice active meditation- which is the process of manifesting through meditating.
Breathe: You may not realize how often you hold your breath, or disrupt your flow of natural breathing. Change can be made more tolerable by practicing the sixth tool of conscious breathing. Not only will it lower your blood pressure, you'll also feel better physically. While experiencing change, pay close attention to your breath. Deep belly breaths, similar to what an infant takes, are what you're after.
Embrace the Many Emotions the Come with Change: Maybe yesterday was a really awful day, but today can be a great one. If change involves loss, you could also experience the six stages of grief..... but regardless of your situation, know that each day could be very different. Ride it out, and take on the role of the observer. Change isn't a perfect process, and there will be peaks and valleys with each day. Clients who have experienced sudden loss, for example, report that "it doesn't get easier, but it gets different. Getting up each morning and getting dressed gives me purpose". This eight tool is made more navigational by relying on intention setting. Be deliberate in what you want to experience and claim it.
"When God closes a door, he opens a window." Nine: Don't fail before you start. What if the change means something better? Be open to the possibilities for greatness. This is really hard for many clients- especially those who struggle with self worth. Try to get past the reality that we shun change as humans (most of us) just because it's different. Move past your comfort zone and be open to the possibilities.
Ten: If you know change is coming, prepare yourself. Some clients are super resistant to change. They pick dark clothes, eat the same types of foods daily, and take the same route to work each day. To prepare yourself mentally and physically for known change, experiment by stepping out of your comfort zone. If your common wardrobe colors are greys and blacks, throw in some red, pink, or lime green. For men, go for a red tie. (Red also identifies with security and can be comforting to some).
Change doesn't have to be scary- it's a necessary part of life. Give these tools a try to make change in your life a little more bearable. What things are changing in your world? How will you handle them?
Jen Ortman, owner of Holistipet (LLC) is a Professional Animal Communicator, Animal Reiki Master Teacher, author, and speaker.